Lately I've been getting reminded why I distant myself from certain people.
Apparently the views I hold have labeled me as a man hating non-child bearing women. Which I obviously am not. I was recently informed that "since I have these "feminist" views, why do I have a husband and child. Which makes me a poser." Their exact wording. First off, why aren't all women calling themselves feminist? Feminist is such a taboo today. I know quite a few feminist who aren't lesbians, have hairy armpits and hate men. I feel that being a women who values herself and knows her self worth is a feminist. I wish all females would see that and just admit that "Hey I don't like being called a slut because I enjoy sex,. I demand equal pay. I hate double standards. " I could go on. But won't.
So this person , who is also female. insisted that I was this huge poser, because I got married and had a baby, WELL ACTUALLY, had a baby THEN got married. I was not aware that in the Feminist Rule book, it was stated a feminist can't bear children or find love.( I think it's VERY POSSIBLE to find someone that respects what you believe, treats you the way you deserve and have a loving equal relationship with them.)
The truth is some women want to have kids and others don't. GASP. Yes there are women out there that don't want kids, god forbid that!
Why is it anyone's business anyways? If someone wants to have a kid cool, if not cool.
Did I plan to have a kid? Honestly not really, it happened luckily with someone who I absolutely love and adore. I did what I thought I should and I love my son to death. He's my world.
My views on women's rights, on being a women is simple. I believe in equality for women, respect and having choices. I don't need anyone to decide for me what I need.
And I certainly do not need someone questioning my beliefs and saying I am a "poser". I know what I know.
I do know that I totally just rambled on and I feel I make no sense. It's been a long day and it's getting late.
Dylan's fast asleep, and my SIMS need to be taken care off.
Night/
1 comment:
Oh goodness ... I've never had anyone call me a poser before ... but I've definitely been called a man-hater. As a fellow feminist, I think it's wonderful that you've found a partner that respects and shares your ideas and beliefs and that you are raising a child together (and it makes me happy that there's at least a couple people in my family that share beliefs similar to mine lol). Keep doing what you're doing ... hopefully someday society will catch on.
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